Imagine my surprise the other day when I was taking a break at the lakefront, and I received an email from “Prince Liam” in Florida, after a year of no contact.
Me: I got an email with an attachment from you. Didn’t open it. Figure your email was hacked.
Liam: No. Just a selfie.
Me: ???? (I open the email. He’s right! JUST a selfie. Not a single word. Just a pic of him standing alone in a public bathroom at work, looking trim, but very serious.)
Me: Sweet. You look great! (I left out the stressed, unhappy and years older part.)
Me: But you always looked good to me. (This was true.)
Liam: Thanks. Back to work. :pp……. (I had NO idea what that emoticon even meant! Call me stupid. It’s just not a big part of my vernacular.)
WTF! What was that all about? I haven’t heard from this guy in about a year. Was he slumming?
I hesitated whether or not to even respond to the pic, knowing full well that he may enjoy that more than a response. Then I thought “be nice”. Don’t play games! (Frankly, my position is that role playing outside of the bedroom, makes for a very poor foundation of a relationship.) Maybe I just don’t want a relationship that badly.
Sex with him was great. But this is where the oxytocin release during sex can addle a girl’s brain! (Oxytocin being the “happy hormone” released in the brain during sex which causes bonding.)
Why do women have to over-think everything? I could go nuts trying to analyze the look on his face in the pic, or his motivation for sending it. Why no smile? Is he looking for “a fix”? Is he stressed? Does he miss me? Is he just bored? Is he looking for sexting?
In truth, the only question of any significance here is, WHO CARES?
If he can’t be direct and make some attempt to communicate other than sending a pic, what’s that all about? He once told me (referring to Mike) you deserve so much more than that. But what is he offering?
This is one of those few times that I absolutely HATE being an optimist! I often miss the obvious, or give too much rope only to find myself hanging from a tree!